Maybe you have just completed a pregnancy test and it was positive. What now? Or your house doctor told you that you are pregnant. Maybe you have skipped a menstrual period and you feel so afraid, confused, alone... in a panic.

If you are pregnant, you owe it to yourself to make very sure that you have all the information regarding choices and help offered before you make a life changing decision. You will never be the same again. So, make very sure that you do not make rushed decisions while you are still in shock and panicking. We want you to make an informed, responsible choice.

In a difficult situation it is easy to feel that everything needs to be sorted out as soon as possible. You may feel as if you are in a very dark tunnel and that the only light at the end is not to be pregnant anymore. It is not easy to consider all the options objectively. Just remember that whatever you decide, nothing can change the fact of your pregnancy. You cannot go back in time; you can only go forward – and therefor you must make the decision you can live with.

It's important that you take time to consider all your options carefully without being pressured by those around you. Whatever they consider to be best for you, it remains your choice and you have to live with it. If you choose to go along with someone else's desires, you may feel angry with them afterwards because things didn't turn out the way you expected.

Yet at the same time we often feel that we want someone else to make the decision for us because it is so hard...

Make sure that...

  • You have a pregnancy test done.
  • You get information on the development of the baby.
  • You are fully informed about all your options; abortion, adoption and parenting.
  • You allow yourself time to think (brainstorm) logically about every option.
  • You spend an equal amount of time thinking about each option.
  • You write down the pros and cons of each option.
  • You also list the changes or plans you'd choose to make for your own life with any of the option.
  • You talk to someone you trust.
  • You make a tentative decision two months before delivery - If you wait until the last minute, you'll feel pressured.
It can be very difficult to think clearly with all the problems crowding into your mind. A chat with a counsellor will provide a way for you to talk through solutions. They will give you the opportunity to take a look at your situation and the changes you want to make. They will help you make your own decision with acceptance and support. Instead of taking control, they will allow you to have control.

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